Oh, Quarter Life Crisis.

How To, Personal // 19 December 2014 // 10 Comments

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Welcome to the Quarter Life Crisis Club! Where you constantly feel like going through a downward spiral, lots of confusion, and a bazillion unanswered questions plague your every waking moment. According to Wikipedia the Quarter-life crisis is,

“a period of life usually ranging from the late teens to the early thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult. The term was coined by analogy with mid-life crisis.” 

If you’re not sure you’re dealing with a quarter-life crisis, Buzzfeed has an article about it… But it’s pretty obvious if you’re dealing with it. Trust me, you’d know. If you’re constantly wondering what you’re doing, where you’re going in life, worrying about time, worrying about still not landing your dream job, worrying about finding someone to spend the rest of your life with because tick-tock time is gold and everyone else is having babies and getting married and you’re still in your pajamas at 2 o’clock in the afternoon eating apple pie with vanilla ice cream (I may or may not just have described myself there) — then yes, that is a quarter-life crisis — and welcome to the club.

A few weeks ago was when my quarter-life crisis really hit me hard and this impending doom shadowed over my life, a constant “What are you doing? You’re wasting time!” voice nagged at me and wouldn’t leave me alone. I found myself crying some nights and feeling depressed. I was in a battle between my wants and indecisiveness. I had written a set of goals at the start of 2014 of what I wanted my life to be like a year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years from now… This list of goals really helped put things into perspective and helped motivate me to keep pushing. But what happened was that soon enough the pressure of wanting to attain these goals pressured me so much I ended up being unhappy and finding myself slowly having a change of heart. I suddenly wanted different things, and I didn’t know how to react to this sudden change of emotions. I was a mess for a few good days until I decided to put my foot down and do something about my quarter-life crisis instead of just letting it eat me alive.

Below are my top 5 ways of dealing with my quarter-life crisis:

1. Develop the “I will be okay” mantra. I know, it’s so cliche. Every time I go to someone with a problem and I get a, “you will be okay.” response, I want to punch them in the face. But it’s so goddamn true. I’ve gone through a lot of negative things in my life, and in the middle of the moment when you’re feeling all these intense emotions everything seems like it will never be okay — but that’s only because you’re caught up in the moment. Look back on the past events in your life, the time you had an earth shattering fight with a family member or your best friend, a bad breakup, the time your dog died — all horrible moments where you felt like everything was forever ruined — now look at how you are now. Aren’t you okay? Even better, aren’t you more than okay? These low moments exist to build you up. All my quarter-life crisis depressed days ended with me pushing forward and persisting to fight it. And here I am, writing this blog entry to help you fight it too. You will be okay.

2. Talk it out. When my quarter-life crisis would hit, I would message my loved ones and just let it all out — even if it didn’t make sense to them 100% of the time, they were there to listen and that’s all that really mattered. You need to unload all the emotions because carrying them by yourself will only drown you.

3. Keep busy. My friend, Jaya, told me this after we talked about my quarter-life crisis. And it’s true. If you keep busy doing work, your hobbies, just being productive in general this will keep away the nagging thoughts. It doesn’t mean you’re not dealing with your quarter-life crisis, in fact you’re dealing with it in a way of productiveness. When you’re productive, you’re paving the way into finding more about yourself — experiences, likes, dislikes, learning things, etc.

4. Take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone. I’m here dealing with quarter-life crisis. I know just about 5 or more other people my age who also deal with it from time to time. It’s normal. It may freak you out at first, but there’s a handful of people who also have no idea what the fuck they’re doing with their lives. So don’t go thinking, “Well X has a baby and she’s married. I’m 24 and still single and the only thing that loves me is my cat, and that’s only when I feed her.” Don’t freak out. Everyone has a different path. We’ll be okay. We’ll get there eventually.

5. Do something, and remember the 3 E’s: Explore. Experience. Expand.
First, you gotta explore. Your quarter-life crisis usually brings the question, “What am I doing with my life/career/love life?” and the only way to find the answer isn’t by asking other people what you should do, it’s by exploring. If you’re not sure of the career path you’ve taken, consider dipping your toes into another field that interests you. If you’re unhappy with your love life or where it’s going, go out there and try to meet new people. Take up a new hobby, learn a new skill — the world is definitely your oyster. Make use of it.

Second, you gotta know that experience is your best teacher. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. More often than not, fear is the very first reason the quarter-life crisis bug even exists. Fear was the number one reason for me. Fear of not having enough time, mostly. And fear that I wasn’t going to be good enough. Life is full of experiences — good and bad ones. You must learn to use these experiences to help find ourselves, even if it’s one piece at a time.

Third, learn to expand yourself. When you step out of your comfort zone and see where that takes you, you have to do something you wouldn’t normally do, and live through it without regrets. This is something I recently have been trying to do, saying yes to things that would normally scare me. And so far, it has been very fruitful and has helped me push my own boundaries and made me realize there’s nothing to really fear. I expand myself by pushing my limits. If I used to do draft one blog post every other day, I’ll try drafting 2-3 instead. If I used to spend Php 3,000 of my paychecks, I try to spend less the next time so I can save more. If I think I can do 100% on projects, I push myself to do 200%, just because I can. It’s things like this which help shape us, and help us learn more about ourselves and get one step closer to whatever our goals may be.

And lastly a simple quote reminder from my favorite quarter-life crisis movie Reality Bites to wrap this entire post up:
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Listen to Ethan Hawke, he knows what he’s talking about.

Bratpack’s Peg Magazine Holiday Collection 2014

Fashion // 17 December 2014 // 20 Comments

Two months ago, I was contacted by Bratpack to model for their Peg Magazine Holiday Collection which will be in stores from November 2014 – February 2015. I was a little iffy at first, because I felt like they were mistaken for even contacting me. I told them I wasn’t a model — but they didn’t care & were interested in hiring me anyway. So I thought, “this could be fun! why not?” and I was absolutely right and I’m so glad I decided to step out of my comfort zone (something I’ve been trying to do more often) and just let myself go with the flow. The result? A really great photoshoot and an amazing looking magazine! This has got to be my most favorite shoot I’ve done so far.

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‘Tis The Season For A Wishlist

Personal // 16 December 2014 // 9 Comments

christmaswishlistA few days ago I tweeted, “Trying to make a Christmas wish list but nothing at all comes to mind. Everything I want can’t be bought. Ew. I’m so mature na.”, which is the result of one of my life philosophies, which is: If I don’t have to have it with a passion, then I don’t need it.

Being raised by  parents who didn’t shower me with my every want, and taught us the value of money, caused this way of thinking. And that’s okay with me, but it’s equally as frustrating because some days I want something and other days I don’t (want that something), solely because I realized I’ve gone a few more days of not having that something in my possession and here I am, I’m okay. I may or may not be just really freakin’ fickle, too.

But, in the spirit of it being Christmas, and in the spirit of just letting myself accept my wants as things I do truly want (am I making sense? I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who feels this way!), I’ve finally found six items I’ve been wanting the past 6 months!

1. Round-trip tickets from Manila to London – Gab purchased his round-trip fare for October 2015 just a few hours ago via Philippine Airlines. We were thinking of purchasing tickets for me as well, but being I still had to apply for a UK Visa on June, I didn’t want to risk having to refund the ticket IF I ever get rejected for the Visa whatever reason. I’m trying to not be negative about it but you gotta prepare for the worst. I already have the funds for the ticket, but if someone could get me tickets, I DEFINITELY WOULDN’T MIND EITHER. These are the times I wish Santa were real.

2. Urban Decay’s Naked Basics – I ABSOLUTELY NEED THIS PALETTE IN MY LIFE. I attempted buying this on the Sephora website during the Black Friday sale but alas, it was not meant to be because my credit card isn’t a US issued one. Much to my frustrations. I’m also very torn about purchasing this because 1) It’s very expensive and 2) I already have the Naked 1 palette and it (sort of) suffices for my everyday natural looks… But this palette is smaller, thus making it more travel friendly.

3. Chelsea Boots – I bought Chelsea from SuiteBlanco a few months ago but that one has 5 inch heels that aren’t suited for everyday/travel wear. Since I planned the Eurotrip with Gab, I’ve been wanting/needing travel friendly boots because October is fall season, thus plimsolls/sneakers will probably no longer suffice for lots of walking and cold weather.

4. Rosebud Salve – I just really want this balm.

5. Crosley Record Player – It’s weird that Gab and I have collected records (some I even had to get shipped to Europe when I was there in 2013) and we still haven’t played any of them on account of neither of us owning a record player. We kept planning to get one together to share, but it just never happens……. Now I know it really wont happen because all our money is being saved for the trip + other future plans. Haha

6. The Book Thief – MY FAVORITE BOOK (aside from the Harry Potter series), which I already own. But I specifically want this kind of book cover where Liesel is dancing with Death. It’s so gorgeous and simple and I think is a great depiction of the story. All the other book covers are shit, to be honest, and I have no idea why this book cover isn’t the standard one.

So, there we have it! I think it’s a fairly do-able wishlist, but I’m also glad that I’ve reached that age where my wants don’t necessarily need to be fulfilled for me to even be happy. I think that’s why I live that kind of philosophy as I mentioned in the beginning of this entry.

Have you got a Christmas Wishlist on your blog? I’d love to see them! If not, let me know what’s on your Christmas Wishlist as well! :)

 

The Happy List: Vol. 22

The Happy List // 15 December 2014 // 8 Comments

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Here are the things making me incredibly happy lately:

  1. Three years with my main man &  a lovely romantic dinner with a gorgeous view of the city
  2. Dealing with my quarter life crisis and deciding to not let it kick me in the butt (planning a blog post for this!)
  3. Seeing my family again for Sunday lunches
  4. Sam (baby sister) being extra playful and sweet
  5. Plans falling through, but ending up making better plans instead
  6. Christmas lights, cold nights while walking around the town
  7. Moments captured in film
  8. Turkey bacon & scrambled egg breakfasts
  9. Feeling ‘at home’ with Gab and his family
  10. Lots and lots of great dinners with loved ones

I seemed to have put this blog category in the backseat. Oops! You’re also probably wondering why I’ve chosen a photo from my trip to Frankfurt, Germany last year… Ever since I stepped foot into Europe, I’ve always dreamt of going back in 2-3 years time, but with Gab this time. I didn’t  think it was actually possible because of different circumstances and obstacles I faced, but I’m glad to say we’re planning to head to Europe together next year, and I’ve been going through my Europe photos just reminiscing, as well as doing a ton of research for how much our Eurotrip would cost, what kind of weather we’d be facing (I went on June, which was summer, and the worst), and what cities we’d be stopping at! It’s a little early to plan, since the trip wont be until October 2015, but my VISA applications for UK/Schengen start around June! So I’d have to prepare financially as much as I can before that to make sure I’d even have enough to survive without becoming a complete hobo, and so realistically the planning should start as early as now :)

Anyway, a happy Monday to you folks! Almost less than a week left until Christmas, and although I’m at that age where it “doesn’t feel like Christmas” anymore, I’m still excited because it’s the holidays and I get to go home and spend it with my family. :)

 

The Instax Wander Launch

Tech & Gadgets // 8 December 2014 // 7 Comments

I have been a huge fan of Instax and their products for years. My first ever instant camera was the Instax 210 Wide, which I had my friend from Japan buy for me (it was cheaper there than here at the time, but soon prices in Japan matched the ones being sold here locally!) and I completely fell in love with it.

People would always ask me, “Is buying an Instax worth it?” and my answer will always be one big Y-E-S. I love the idea that I can have instant pictures to keep in my journal, my bag, my wallet, or taped up on my walls without the added hassle of even printing out images manually from a digital camera. It’s capturing memories in a way no digital camera or cellphone  camera can. And if you’re one of those filter freaks, fret not, the Instax will ALWAYS make you look good. The flash effect is flattering and filters? Forget the filters, revel in the nostalgic feels that instant photography gives!

So the Instax team invited me to their Wander Launch event where they would unveil their new products in the market. The fun event was held at Vanilla Cupcake Bakery, all kinds of adorable, quirky and girly — kind of what Instax is also all about!


Upon entering the store, you’re greeted with a lot of Christmas vibes. Something I seem to find hard to feel this season. Oh, and that Christmas tree is absolutely gorgeous. I’d want my tree to look like that, please?

A cupcake buffet — sweetness overload. I think they wanted us to get on a sugar rush and hyper. I mostly wanted to just grab 5 cupcakes and stuff them in my bag but alas, I did not have the space for it!

I am most especially drawn to Tuesday, the Instax Share. OH WHAT A LOVELY DEVICE. It kind of defeats the purpose of having an instax camera, because with the Instax Share you can print ANY photo (digital) and turn it into an Instax photo… BUT MY GOD HOW BADLY I WANT ONE. One day, one day.

After tons of food and games, Mr. Takuya Maeda (Assistant to the President of FujiFilm and Division Head – Electronic Imaging & Photo Imaging — I know this because he gave us his business card! Haha) talked to us about the new Instax Camera and the history behind it, he was hilarious and made learning about the history of Instax extra fun by asking us to guess facts, and even if we didn’t get the answer right but the answer made him laugh, he’d give you a pack of Instax film!

We learned that the Instax camera is actually 16 years old! I had no idea! These cameras were also inspired by Japanese teenagers, and I can understand and see how and why — They’re a whole other culture on their own! So, thank you Japanese youth and thank you Fujifilm, and thank you Japan for just existing and being so darn awesome!

Here are the products that were launched at the event:


– Instax Mini 8 got two new colors: Grape &  Raspberry
RETAILS FOR: Php 3,699


– Instax Mini 90 got a new color as well which is in Brown (it looks like the Instagram logo!)
RETAILS FOR: Php 7,999

– Instax 300 Wide (similar to the 210, and can be mounted on a tripod)
RETAILS FOR: Php 6,999


– Hello Kitty Instax Camera (everyone went crazy over this, including myself! it’s so cute!)
RETAILS FOR: Php 4,999


Me trying to be all cute with the Hello Kitty camera. Ideally, it’s such an adorable thing to own, but in reality, I’m just not girly enough for it! Haha

Moira, my new found friend, organized the entire even and it was her first time to really organize an event for Instax, so I’d like to congratulate this young and beautiful lady for such a successful launch! <3

Each of us bloggers got to take home a goodie bag, mine was travel themed and had Instax film in it for my new Instax Mini 90! It also came with a notebook and some washi tape so I can store my photos in it plus a leather case for the camera so it’ll always be protected and free from scratches!

Here are some photos I took the past two days. Because I have a new camera, I took the liberty to do test shots and took down notes of what settings I used to get the final effect in each photo, just so I could acquaint myself with the camera and its features. I plan to write a review on the Instax Mini 90 in the near future when I’ve played around with it a bit more :)

For more information on Instax cameras and their on-going Christmas promos, you may visit their Facebook page and follow them on Instagram too! You can also tag them on Instagram (#teaminstaxph) and your photos could be featured on their IG account! :)

Can’t wait to blog about the next Instax adventure!