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How to Attract Positivity in Your Daily Life

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One of my biggest life lessons was learning how to face life with utmost positivity, all thanks to a failed long term relationship with an ex-boyfriend and suddenly being thrown into the unknown with only one thought in mind to help me get through it: I will be okay. That was around 5 years ago, and I truly believe that the entire relationship’s purpose was to teach me exactly what I’m about to talk to you about in this post. You see, I owe it all to my optimism for how I continue to survive no matter what kind of curveballs life throws my way. I can’t ever imagine living life without optimism influencing me, my decisions, my reactions to situations, and my overall well-being.

I’ve listed down the top 5 ways on how to attract positivity in your daily life, because if it works for me, then it can work for you too:

1. Smile when you start the day.

This is something relatively new for me, and I actually learned about it from my boyfriend Gab, who told me that he started smiling when he would wake up and it would actually start his day on a really good note. It works because your mind is conditioned to think that smiling means happiness, and so it causes a positive effect on your psychological state. And if you’re feel like needing an extra boost, try smiling in front of the mirror. It’ll feel really silly at first, and sometimes will make you laugh at yourself, but silliness and laughter is just another reminder not to take things too seriously! And hey, “laughter is the best medicine” isn’t the most popular saying for nothing.

2. Be grateful for the little things

It’s the little things that make up the big things. Be grateful you’re alive to greet a new day, for the pillow under your head, the clothes on your back, breakfast waiting for you in the kitchen, because you have people who love you — it’s these little things that make us who we are, and without these little things, we actually wouldn’t be where we are at this very moment. Life could be way worse, you know? But it’s really not. It’s good, life is so damn good.

3. Celebrate achievements

Make a note of all your achievements, recent or from a year or two ago. It doesn’t matter how big or small these achievements are, if it makes you happy that you achieved it, then it’s worth celebrating. It doesn’t have to be a job promotion or finally saving up enough money to buy a car… I’m talking “Woohoo! I cleaned my room today!” or “I was able to cook something that isn’t burnt and actually is edible!” (Yeah, don’t judge. I’ve cooked rice wrong in a rice cooker… But I have learned and I celebrate that achievement!) So when you have days where you’re feeling like you’re not doing anything right or things just aren’t going your way, you can look back on your list and say, “Hey! I did this then, and I can do it again!”

4. Send the pessimists around you good thoughts

This was one of the biggest practices that has helped me cope with negative people in my life. When someone is affecting you negatively, in any shape or form, instead of reacting just pause for a moment and try to understand why they are the way they are, and why you’re reacting the way you do. We are all built to feel annoyance or anger towards people who push our buttons but it’s our choice if we will let them control the way we feel or react. So pause, contemplate, and choose your battles. What will I gain from fighting back? What good will come out of this?  Is the negativity worth it? Most often the answer is no, it’s not. That step of self-awareness alone is harnessing positivity, but don’t hog it all to yourself, send good thoughts for the person you’re in conflict with as well, because they definitely need it too.

5. Surround yourself with positive people

Positive people only lift each other up, while negative people weight down everyone else around them. Think of positivity as lightness, while negativity an anchor that will weigh you down and drown you. Pessimism is easily contagious, so when you spot a Negative Nancy, run like he/she carries the black plague!!!!!!! I’m just kidding, just acknowledge the energy, but don’t welcome it into your life. And lastly, remember that when you surround yourself with optimistic people, everything around you will feel light and effortless, leaving more room in your life for happiness to grow and multiply.

And so, I leave you with this: It is absolutely human to have negativity come into our lives and sometimes even have ourselves plant seeds of it in the nook and crannies of our emotional well-being — the important thing here is learning to be self-aware and making the active choice to stop it. It is impossible to be 100% optimistic 24/7 of our daily lives and if you were, I’d say you’re insane and you need to go to the loony bin. But joking aside, I think negativity often creeps up at each of us to keep the world a little bit more balanced — and if you can make the active choice to be more optimistic than negative, I promise you a vast difference will take effect in your life.

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28 Comments

  • Reply Yvette Santos 6 March 2015 at 12:07 pm

    Such an inspiration, Camie! I love you!

  • Reply Clarisse 6 March 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Love this! Personally, I like to just focus on all the little positive things to counter the negativity that comes into my life and somehow it works :)

  • Reply Jeline Catt (@jelinecatt) 6 March 2015 at 1:30 pm

    YES TO POSITIVITY WOOOO

  • Reply Cheska 6 March 2015 at 2:12 pm

    This is helpful! cheers to positivity everyday!

  • Reply Alissa 6 March 2015 at 2:22 pm

    I need this. Thanks Camie. I’m trying to be positive as I can.

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:15 pm

      *hugs* Alissa, you’re such a bright and wonderful girl. I hope you never forget that. Whatever it is you’re going through, it’s temporary. It’ll be over soon and your only job is to stay positive, and everything will work out <3

  • Reply Corinth 6 March 2015 at 2:29 pm

    I strongly agree with all of your points but I find number 3 so hilariously relatable to me! I celebrate the little things, especially when I was still living in the Philippines. Like after accomplishing errands (especially when it involves commuting outside of Marikina), I treat myself to sushi!<3

    Love this post! Keep spreading the positive vibes!

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:14 pm

      That’s so cute! Sushi reward <3 I think the only way I end up rewarding myself now for my productive days is to get in bed and spend 2 hours on reddit. Haha

  • Reply Cyndrel 6 March 2015 at 4:39 pm

    “…when you surround yourself with optimistic people, everything around you will feel light and effortless, leaving more room in your life for happiness to grow and multiply.”

    this is OH SO true…and I love it when you say EFFORTLESS! ^.^

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:13 pm

      I found it to be the best word to describe how life has been ever since I learned to be more positive, everything felt effortless :)

  • Reply Shannon 6 March 2015 at 7:41 pm

    You wrote this post just when I needed it, thank you. :)

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:13 pm

      You’re welcome, Shannon. I hope whatever you’re going through only makes you stronger. Believe and you’ll become it :)

  • Reply Cheryle 6 March 2015 at 7:46 pm

    Basically, it talks about law of attraction. You eventually become what you think, say, and do. Stay positive and keep inspiring people, Camie! :)

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:12 pm

      That’s exactly it! :D

  • Reply KC 6 March 2015 at 8:46 pm

    Beautiful read! :)

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Thanks, KC! :)

  • Reply Miel Laquindanum 6 March 2015 at 9:25 pm

    This post is inspiring! <3

    http://www.caramielrush.net

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Thanks, Miel! I’m glad you find it inspiring :)

  • Reply Hazel Asoy 7 March 2015 at 9:11 am

    As what people say, “believe and you will become”. Believing that you are happy will sooner or later make you one :) Nice tips Camie!

    http://hazelasoy.blogspot.com/

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Exactly!!! That’s how it really works :)

  • Reply Glaiza Binayas 7 March 2015 at 10:38 am

    great post (as always), Camie!!

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Thanks, Glaiza <3

  • Reply MJ Matienzo 8 March 2015 at 4:12 pm

    I am totally in need of this. I’ve been in near depression because of insecurity. I tend to think all negative about me that I came to compare myself to others. I hope these things could help me start erasing my insecurity and look at things positively.

    • Reply Camie Juan 9 March 2015 at 2:10 pm

      *hugs* I know about insecurity. I deal with it too. A lot of the time actually. I think all kinds of people do. Usually the trick that works for me is faking confidence. No one else will know you’re faking it, and even when you do fake it, it doesn’t feel fake at all. It feels real, and it will be real. And before you know it, your insecurities have shut up and you will take center stage. :)

  • Reply Steff 12 March 2015 at 12:08 am

    Hi camie. I know this is a bit out of the topic question but do you have an archive of all your blog post since 2011 – 2013? I’ve started reading your blog since last year and I feel like I want to get to know you more by reading or maybe learn something on your past failed relationship and the journey to recovering from that failed experience. thanks :)

  • Reply Chrys Suganob 19 May 2015 at 2:45 pm

    Thank you for your blogs! A friend of mine, who’s a blogger as well, introduced me your awesome site. Keep your cool, Ate Camie! X

  • Reply missJBeatrice 29 July 2015 at 5:06 pm

    Came across this post of yours today, the day I really needed to read it. Thank you for this! :)
    Also, this is so random but please visit Vietnam! HCMC ;) hehe

  • Reply Silver Bael 28 October 2015 at 2:18 pm

    I love this haha made by day. Rough days do come and sometimes all you think is the negative thoughts but when i find this woah it lessens the negative thoughts that keeps popping in my head….. THANK YOU!

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